Best Man Speech Tips

They have to organize the bachelor party and they have to deliver the best man speech at the wedding. Some folks may not like  public speaking but if one is prepared then they can really have a great speech.

 

If you fail to plan then you plan to fail. I know that you have heard that before but it is so true when it comes to the best man speech. With all that is going on, the best man should get the speech ready 2 to 3 months in advance. There will be so many distractions happening so its best done right away.

 

Only make jokes about your groom and leave the new wife alone with your jokes. She will get her turn with her maid of honor. Do not revel too much about the groom but some stories need to be shared while others should be left alone. 

 

Practice.. Some folks are awesome speakers while others not so much. But with dedicated practice then the speaker can at least look the part. Practice the speech in front of the mirror. Also, maybe have someone record you on your phone. You don’t want to talk to fast and you want to make sure you sound good. Speak slowly. One trick of the trade I used is really move your lips when you speak each word. They come out clearer than ever. Maybe practice in front of some trusted friends who can give you feedback. 

 

Don’t try to wing it and not have your speech not written down. It does not need to be written down word by word but at least be in bullet points. I would also have the notes on your phone in case your notecard gets lost in the shuffle of the wedding. 

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How much musical control to do you give to your dj?

The couple can pick the important songs such as the first dance song and cake cutting song and can trust the dj to play what he thinks would be good. Some couples can just give an outline and let the dj run free. Since some couples are super busy and would want to dj to do all the leg work. Other couples may incorporate a do not play list. Also, the couple can give a list of must play songs for the wedding. Dj would be able to incorporate those must play songs throughout the night. 

 

The best weddings I have been a part of was when couples gave a list to the dj. Often times the couple does not know when to start. With my couples I give them a list of popular songs played at weddings. Music ranges from 80s to pop to jazz to rock. From the list, the couple would send their selections. The couple is also free to include songs that are not on that list. From the selections, the dj can continue the vibe of the event with the songs that they were given. 

 

Also communicate is key with your dj so the dj can see what kind of music to be played at the wedding. The dj can use the playlist the couple gives them as the foundation and play songs that would fit in that category. Also, as a couple, it’s good to be specific with the music requests. An example would be if the couple wants old love songs but in reality, they wanted Motown. 

 

In a nutshell, the couple should help the dj build a list and the dj uses that as the foundation.

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March Playlist 2019

 Cardi B and Bruno Mars Please Me 

Lil Peep and ILovemakonnen  I’ve Been Waiting  

Ariana Grande  Break up with your Girlfriend, I’m Bored  

Post Malone Wow 

Sam Smith and Normani Dancing with a Stranger  

Ariana Grande 7 Rings 

Meek Mill ft Drake Going Bad 

Ava Max Sweet But Psycho 

Halsey Without Me 

Post Malone Sunflower 

J Cole Middle Child  

Blueface Thotiana  

21 Savage A Lot 

Lil Nas X Old Town Road 

Daddy Yankee Con Calma 

Mabel Don’t Call me Up 

Gerard Way and Ray Toro 

YK Osiris Worth It  

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First Proposal Mistakes

Proposals can be fancy. People try to out due other proposals. It has spread to proms. Youngsters are trying to do something special. It is a growing trend. 

 

A common mistake is when the man proposes without a ring. A ring is a symbolic of the love the couple shares. It shows that the man (woman) prepared and thought about his proposal before it happened. Plus, with the ring, its proof that the engagement happened. It was not a figment of the imagination. Sometimes the couple will pick out the ring beforehand so it makes it a less of a surprise. If the man (woman) is not totally sure what kind of ring to get then they can get another ring then later exchange it for one that the couple likes and fits.

 

Sometimes in movies you see someone proposing to someone at a baseball field and they are surrounded by thousands of strangers who will forget about the moment the next inning. A proposal is monumental for the couple. Make it special for the both of you. 

 

Also, technology can be a positive thing. It can get you to your destination and you can find out the latest news. Before the proposal, the one who will propose might let something slip on social media so it ends up on everyone’s feed. Next thing you know then the future spouse knows about it and it is no longer a surprise.

 

Sometimes couples are old fashioned and the future spouse wants the proposal on one knee. The other partner (the proposer) might not want to do it but it would mean a lot to the future spouse. Just get it done. It is a story they would want to share with their family and friends. 

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First Wedding Dance Mistakes

The First Dance of the wedding is monumental. There is debate that folks say the couple should dance the whole song so they couple can relish the moment and the videographer and cameraman can get different angles of the couple during the dance.

I do not believe in should. All weddings are a product of the couple so they can choose how long their song and dance can be. If the couple wants to dance for a few minutes and the dj can fade the song away can be an option. If a couple cannot decide on one song, the dj can premix two songs into one and couples can be creative with their dance. The first song can be a slow song then it can turn into a salsa song to add some spice to the dance. Speaking of being creative, the couple can hire a dance instructor for their first dance. Also communicate with your dj so he can play the song when the couple are on the dance floor since it may be choreographed. It would be good to get the right song version. Best advice, that I can give is to practice the first dance with the music before the wedding. Practice the moves and also smiling. Some people get nervous and forget to smile. 

 

When does the first dance happen? When I help set up weddings, I do suggest having it right after the grand entrance. All the attention is on the couple so why not grab their attention for a few minutes more. There is no food in front of the guests so there have less distraction during the first dance. 

First Dance Mistakes

 Wireless Microphone versus Lapel Microphone versus Wired Microphone for the ceremony

A wireless microphone relies on a receiver and looks nice. They can be place on a microphone stand next to the officicant and one can be placed close to the couple so you can hear their vowels. A concern for wireless microphones is it may drop the signal. Wireless microphones can work well but there is always a slight chance of the signal dropping or the battery running out of juice. It can be tested before the ceremony and work well but with wireless technology it can drop at any moment. 

 

A lapel microphone is placed near the collar. One does not need to hold it with the hands so the hands can be holding a book or other objects. The speaker can talk normally and the sound is sent to the speaker. Since the lapel is wireless there is a slight chance that that the signal may drop. Also if the lapel is turned on early, guest may hear the groom say something before the wedding starts that can be embarrassing. With the wind, it can be heard on the speaker since the lapel is sensitive and there is a slight chance of feedback. 

 

A corded microphone may not look as fancy as a wireless microphone or a lapel but one does not have to worry about it dropping any signal. It can be put on a microphone stand so it does not need to be held. 

 

It does not matter what microphone you chose there is always a chance of feedback. It happens when the speaker moves in front of the speaker or standing in certain areas. It is the dj’s job is lower the volume of the microphone and gradually increase the volume.

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Outside Wedding Ceremony versus Inside Wedding Ceremony

For most people it is an easy decision depending on the state or time of year it is. But there are factors to consider when making a decision. 

 

Benefits of an inside ceremony:

There will be no worry about the rain or snow or temperature. There can be more options about decorating inside. And the inside ceremony can be done anytime during the year.

 

Negatives of an inside ceremony:

It maybe too small if couple has a lot of guests. 

 

Benefits of the outside ceremony:

There usually more room since there are not four walls holding everyone in. The photo shoot has more natural lighting for better pictures. There is less to decorate so it would not take as long to decorate. 

 

Negatives of the outside ceremony:

Bugs and the outside elements during the ceremony will not be fun. Some outside venues are blank slates so couple may need to rent furniture for the ceremony. Power maybe an issue since it is outside.

 

Before the decision is made, it is good to check if the venue has a back up plan in case being outside is not favorable. Also its good to check on the power source is close by and functional for the outside event so the speaker(s) will work for the ceremony. 

 

Good communication is key with your venue connection in case there is a sudden change and the outside ceremony has to go inside. Hopefully they can contact the couple a few hours before in case of the sudden change. Djs can set up a ceremony event in 20to 40 minutes so they have to be in the loop in case of a change.

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Best of 2018 Music Playlist

GOD’S PLAN BY DRAKE

GIRLS LIKE YOU BY MAROON 5

I LIKE IT BY CARDI B

NO TEARS LEFT TO CRY BY ARIANA GRANDE

IN MY FEELINGS BY DRAKE

BETTER NOW BY POST MALONE

PSYSCHO BY POST MALONE

THE MIDDLE BY MAREN MORRIS

ONE KISS BY DUA LIPA

SAD! BY XXXTENTACION

LUCID DREAMS BY JUICE WRLD

NEVER BE THE SAME BY CAMILA CABELLO

HAVANA BY CAMILA CABELLO

FRIENDS BY ANNE-MARIE

YOUNGBLOOD BY 5 SECONDS OF SUMMER

LOOK ALIVE BY BLOCBLOY JB

NO BRAINER BY DJ KHALED

HAPPIER BY MARSHMELLO

STIR FRY BY MIGOS

EASTSIDE BY BENNY BLANCO

BREATHIN BY ARIANA GRANDE

I’M A MESS BY BEBE REXHA

SOBER BY DEMI LOVATO

X BY NICKY JAM AND J BALVIN

BE CAREFUL BY CARDI B

ELECTRICITY BY SILK CITY FT DUA LIPA

HIGH HOPES BY PANIC AT THE DISCO

APESH@T BY THE CARTERS

TASTE BY TYGA FT OFFSET

FINESSE BY BRUNO MARS AND CARDI B

MO BAMBA BY SHECK WES

THANK U, NEXT BY ARIANA GRANDE

BOO’D UP  BY ELLA MAI

SICKO MODE BY TRAVIS SCOTT

PERFECT BY ED SHEERAN

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